Letting go is an art. I truly believe in that. When your significant other leaves you, it hurts. People are so quick to resent their past partners and despise them—wondering how could someone possibly put behind all the things and memories after all this time.
And one of the things is people hold onto words as if they are promises and it is always important to remember that no one can promise you certainty or security despite how it falls on the ears nicely. It is false security even if it’s nice to hear. Those are the things in the moment. Which can still be enjoyed because you must live in the moment. When you spend so much time worrying about the future—when you no longer strive to better your relationship for today and make an adventure out of it—-things can fall apart. People change and grow and sometimes that happens away from each other creating distance.
I’ve allowed myself to believe in the end of all breaks up, I’ll be okay. It is better to soak in all the good than it is the negative outcome. It is okay to hurt. It is okay to feel but to throw it all upon your partner as the reason it is all over is wasted energy. Maybe upon weeks or months, you realize the partner that you are with is incompatible or you realize that there is something else you want to do about it. But you must heal yourself first and forgive yourself along with others and understand the entire scheme of things—search within yourself to be able to find solace.